Instead of Clearing All Obstacles for Your Child, Teach Them Survival Skills: Early Childhood Education, Little Genius Programs, Fancy Talent Classes... If You Spend All Day Obsessing Over Their Success, Your Little Dragon Might Just Turn Into a Worm!

If parents simply keep interrupting their children, it's not just the child's voice that disappears, but the intimacy of the parent-child relationship.

◎ What do kids know! The decisions I make are destiny for them!

◎ Their diary is my telescope; this is caring, not breaking the law!

◎ They absolutely cannot lose at the starting line! The 'Genius Plan' must start from birth!

◎ Why would I hurt them? Everything I do is for their own good!

Many parents believe that as long as the starting point is love, they can adopt any "educational" method—verbal abuse, invasion of privacy, excessive punishment, or physical discipline... You think you are educating, but you are actually practicing violence.

▎Regarding Verbal Violence

— Kind words vs. harsh words: which would you want to hear growing up?

【I gave birth to them and raised them, so why can't I scold them?】

• Who do you even take after? You're as stupid as a pig!

• Talk back one more time and see! I'll slap you to death!

• Stop being noisy! Don't forget who puts food on the table!

Some parents lose all filter when they are angry. Because it is "their own" child, they feel entitled to scold them, so no matter how ugly the words are, they say them without thinking.

Yes, you gave the child life and provided security, but don't forget: giving birth to them was your choice, and raising them is your responsibility. A child is not a parent's accessory or a slave. What right does a parent have to strip a child of their dignity?

A child who grows up in humiliation will have damaged self-esteem and a deep sense of inferiority. If you don't want your child to act like a slave in the future, then give them back their dignity!

▎Regarding Overstepping Boundaries

— Greenhouse flowers vs. roadside weeds: who has better survival skills?

【Does loving a child mean designing every step of their future?】

• Cram school after school, then talent classes after that!

• Checking their preview progress and setting their review schedule!

• First in the class this time, strive for first in the school next time!

Many parents do everything for their children out of love. The more a parent does for the child, the more clumsy and lazy the child becomes; the more a parent spoils them, the more incompetent and passive the child becomes.

You can plan a short path for your child, but you cannot arrange their whole life. The child's path needs to be their choice, and the child's future needs to be in their hands.

A qualified parent should give their child the most beautiful things: teaching them the ability to survive, to live, and to create, rather than doing everything for them.

★ Book Features: This book advocates that parents should give children room for free development and allow them to grow up in happiness. The book is divided into eight chapters, using real cases and educational stories to discuss various issues in parent-child education. We believe every parent hopes their child will become successful; the primary condition for realizing this wish is to let children live and learn independently. Only then can children grow healthily.