Broken Upbringing: Blood Ties Are Closest, But Hearts Are Furthest Apart

Excessive love for the next generation is actually a form of illness.

【Spoiling is Equivalent to Psychological Violence】

There are two forms of spoiling. One is "all-inclusive" spoiling, where parents see their children as "replicas" of themselves, hoping the child will become an extension of their own unfulfilled wishes. The other is "indulgent" spoiling, where parents willingly act as the child's "vassals," following the child's "commands" and sacrificing everything for the child. Regardless of the type, spoiling will ruin a child's life.

【How to View the Relationship with Your Child Correctly?】

▪ Daily Life

Parents should support children in participating in group activities. In the process of completion, children can experience their own value, which is also an excellent way for them to understand themselves.

▪ When Talking to Children

One must listen and respond seriously. Do not be perfunctory just because they are children; otherwise, they may stop sharing anything with you in the future.

▪ When Children Make Mistakes

Do not start with interrogation and scolding. First, understand the sequence of events. Consider how to correct the child's mistake while ensuring their self-esteem is not harmed and improving their ability to distinguish right from wrong.

【If You Want Your Child to Become a Certain Kind of Person, You Must Be That Kind of Parent】

Children observe every word and action of their parents. When some parents rebuke their children, the child may immediately retort: "Didn't you do the same thing before?" Faced with such a counter-question, parents are often left speechless and helpless.

Some parents often shout at their children to "go read a book," but the parents themselves fail to notice that while saying this, they are comfortably lying on the sofa watching TV! In such an environment, can a child really focus on studying hard in their room?

★ Book Features

Times are constantly evolving, and the channels for children to receive new things are becoming more extensive. In this situation, parents' educational methods must keep pace with the times, understanding social development and recognizing children's strengths and weaknesses. The old "spare the rod, spoil the child" education method can no longer keep up with the era. Parents must also continue to learn and educate their children in more reasonable ways.

To help parents avoid the mistake of "pampering," this book summarizes many classic practices for educating children and proposes effective solutions based on case analysis, allowing readers to improve their parenting skills through systematic reflection!