Bad Kids are Actually Good: Seven Lessons in Parenting Without Hitting or Scolding to Reclaim Your Intimacy with Your Child

Have you ever said these things to your child?

"I'm counting to three!"

"Try talking back to me again!"

"Wrong is wrong, why are there so many excuses?"

It’s not that the child wants to distance themselves from you; it's that you pushed them away first!

▍If You Have a Clear Conscience, Why Can't You Explain Things Calmly?

Many parents do not know how to communicate with children as equals, often saying, "Why are you asking so many questions?" or "I said no, and that's that!"

But if you only hit and scold when a child makes a mistake, they will see you as "unreasonable" and won't understand what they did wrong. Eventually, they fall into a vicious cycle of "making mistakes" and "being scolded."

▍Habitually Following Your Arrangements Doesn't Mean Accepting Them

Do you speak to your child in this commanding tone?

"You are not allowed to go out this weekend." "You can only play video games after finishing your homework."

If a child is not respected from a young age, how can you expect them to respect and love you when they grow up?

Worse still, children raised in such an autocratic environment often develop weak personalities, becoming submissive to those in power.

▍An Unhappy Child Will Resent You for a Lifetime

Are you always worried that your child's grades aren't good enough?

Have you signed them up for a mountain of cram schools and talent classes?

Think about it: is the child's playtime significantly less than their study time?

"I'd rather their youth be a blank slate than have their future be a blank slate!"

You meticulously arrange everything for the child, but they won't necessarily be moved to tears of gratitude when they grow up.

Life is short; we should hope children have a proactive attitude, but we should also teach them to slow down and enjoy the beauty of life.

★ Anyone can become a qualified parent; the only difference is whether you have the heart for it!

This book tightly integrates specific parenting examples with educational theories, providing a complete analysis of the problems faced in raising children today. It allows parents to quickly grasp what constitutes incorrect educational methods, find the root of the problem, and solve it effectively. It is an extremely practical parenting manual, especially for parents who are eager for their children to succeed.